👁️🗨️ Visual by: Mireille van Bremen | www.thevisualmediator.com
🖋️ Text by: Simon Wiskowski | www.encounter.work
“What if they get angry? How do I say it so they won’t get angry?”
Trying to avoid other people getting angry is a losing battle because we can’t control other people’s emotions.
We simply don’t have that power.
That said, although we can’t control other people’s emotions, we can control how we respond to other people’s emotions, and that’s been my practice for the last many years—to meet people precisely where they’re at and be with them just as they are.
“Ok… well, how do I do that, especially when people are experiencing BIG emotions?”
The how… that’s for another time.
For now, my intent is to share the perspective shift that’s brought ease and spaciousness into my life and the way that I relate to people.
Instead of worrying about how other people might react to what we say, which is not within our control, focus instead on what IS within our control—being honest (what it means to be honest is yet another topic for another time) and developing our ability to remain calm and centered regardless of how people choose to express themselves.
Should you choose to develop yourself in this way, I bet you will experience a similar result to what I’ve experienced…
You will discover your power—the power we all have to simply, yet not always easily, be ourselves.
Want a place to practice saying the scary part out loud and listening to others however they respond to you… all without the worry that you might destroy the relationships you care most about?
Visit: www.encounter.work to sign up for a free drop-in session or to enroll in a weekly encounter group.
My name is MIREILLE VAN BREMEN
I value transparency, equality, fairness, peace and wellbeing, and I believe peaceful relationships are the result of how capable we are in listening and valuing each other's contribution in co-creating the future. This is why I create, design and offer products and programs that help us develop and use our visual and emotional intelligence to promote these values.
The foundation of my work is formed by two studies at the Willem de Kooning Academy of Art in Rotterdam, The Netherlands, and years of experience in the fields of graphic design, illustration, graphic recording, visual facilitation training and Nonviolent Communication based coaching, training, and conflict resolution.
I work as a bridge between complex ideas and audiences, using visual tools to clarify, present, and interpret information. Through graphic recording of discussions and visual facilitation of processes, I support getting all stakeholders to speak one voice, making it possible to create a joint vision of the future that all stakeholders are committed to.